Today I learned that Narcissists steal so much more than your time, your sanity or even your heart. They are just plain thieves who steal your belongings too! You see they give you gifts. Things that make you feel loved. But then when you piss them off, they take those items back as a form of punishment. And they do it without telling you so later, you discovered it missing and they sit back and watch you drive yourself crazy looking for it.
Case in point. My Narcissistic MIL made everyone in the family Christmas stockings. Cross stitch elegance with our names on them. My stbnx ransacked the Christmas bins and stole them along with other items. He broke things along the way. He blamed the box. That it fell. It didn't fall. He was stealing things from the house little by little and I never knew. He did this when I wasn't home. He would come hime from work and load up the car. Neighbors ratted him out and he was so unnerved by this he grilled them to find out who snitched.
The absolute level of deception to pull this off is astounding. How does someone do that to someone they claimed they loved? But then, this is a person who has been lying to me for a very long time. Someone who has deceived me without guilt, without conscience, without even any remorse. I was simply a bookmark until he couldn't fool me anymore and then I became the enemy. An enemy to be punished severely for the crimes HE committed!
It's a horrible way to be treated. A horrible realization that you made a fatal mistake in trusting this person enough to give them your heart, your life and your faith. Only to have them use it to make themselves look better and then selfishly suck you dry until there is nothing left.
I learned today that this inhuman species will stop at nothing to hurt another person. They justify their actions by avoiding accountability and then they push the blame onto anyone else, but themselves where it belongs. I have been abused mentally, financially and yes, physically to the extent that police strongly suggested that I obtain an order of protection because *guys like him are a Jekyl and Hyde* and will do absolutely anything to protect their image.
And that's why they discard. Once you have discovered their secrets...they hate you. Because now you know. And they can't have that. Not at all. They must destroy the evidence and anyone who knows about it. Even if it's their own kids. Today my daughter left her home for the final time. The only home she has ever known. Everything she owns in boxes, bags, totes. And now she is sleeping on an air mattress because we don't have beds.
This is what a narcissist does.
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